Freedom

Self Acceptance

This is an good Exercise I found from the Web (http://www.oprah.com) which helped me to identify myself.

Write how you see yourself as of today.

Exercise: Self-acceptance is the process of befriending the Unconditioned Self—the part of you that is more than just your name, your history, your story, your failures or your successes. You are more than just your experiences or how other people see you or the clothes you wear. 
Reflect on this today: 

1. What is most authentic about you?

2. What do you want people to really know about you?

3. Who are you without your ego?

Who am I ?

(Be still, and really listen to how you answer. Then, write down in your journal the qualities that describe your real, unconditioned self. If you're having a little trouble answering these questions for yourself, try writing a biography of your real self in 100 words. )

You can find the full exercise from the below link.

http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-Self-Acceptance-Can-Crack-Open-Your-Life/7

Asking loved ones how they see you

Hello everyone

I just thought to start a blog post to tell you about things I have found out in the effort of finding myself. Before starting the post let me tell you bit about me. I’m a mother of two adorable twin sons. I have introduced myself like that because those are the only asserts I have today which I fear most loosing. BUT I know my sons do not belong to me. Still I haven’t gone so far letting them go and see the beauty of that.

The First step. - Asking loved ones how they see you.The more you get the better :)

I’m going to post how one of my dearest and closest friend has seen me last year. This year still I haven’t got the update.

How my friend see me as of August 15 2011

Well before writing on the topics you have given, I must say that no one-else knows ourselves better than ourselves. Only you have access to know exactly how you feel and how you think. But there certainly is a part that we don't see clearly and others see better. So what you can do is use that "known by others part" to have a better understanding. Meaning you have to integrate that with what you already know without taking what you are being told as the sole truth, negating what you know. (Check on Johari Window Model in the internet) Hope I haven't said too much.

Now to the answers.


What is most authentic about me?

Having the inner need to find your true self. Everything else is at the risk of going through changes until you find that inner you.

What do you  really know about me?

Well you appear to have no interest in anyone or anything, but it seems that in making decisions or doing something you worry too much about others(family). What they would say, how they would feel and how they would get affected. You appear as if you don't care about conventions, but in living your life I feel that you conform to conventional roles. (mother, wife, daughter, sister) Sometimes I feel that the roles overshadow what you really are.
You may have cared about yourself in terms of the outer appearance, but you certainly have not cared for the inner you.

It seems you have difficulty in handling your emotions. Either you react in a way that can be said as over reacting or completely numb yourself from feeling the emotion. You seem to be very confident in yourself in doing things that does not involve emotions. When dealing with feelings and emotions you are a bit shaky.

I truly appreciate the openness you have been able to achieve, the willingness and ability to analyze, understand and realize. The willingness to seek out the path to more quality in relationships and life. The ability to embrace new found knowledge and follow the path to freedom and independence through nurturing your inner self.     

Whom I'll be without my ego?

You will be a more content and happy unique human being.


So you also can start finding out yourself from your loved ones. Then you can start the second phase analyzing yourself and give ratings.